For Better Or For Worse, In Sickness And In Health?

I'm not a Christian, so when I get married I won't stand in a church reciting the traditional wedding vows. That doesn't mean that I don't believe in what the vows stand for: COMMITMENT. Regardless of which religious beliefs you subscribe to, marriage is a commitment. I've written before that people get married for a number of different reasons, but lets just say for the sake of argument that people marry for love. The story Disney has used to brainwash little girls for ages boy meets girl, they fall in love and get married story.  And they stay true to their wedding vows, for better or for worse, in sickness and in health, till death do them part. Beautiful.

Almost like a contract, right? And by signing the marriage certificate, you've closed the deal. The contract is legally, morally and ethically binding. That's what I've always believed anyway, but I guess some see it differently. I was watching TV last night about a woman whose husband got paralyzed due to a serious car accident 12 years into their marriage. He was just 36 years. He suffered severe brain damage and was hospitalized for quite some time to recover. Fast forward 7 years and the couple are now divorced. The wife, well ex-wife, is living in their house with their three kids and the husband is in an institution.

See, at that point I had to stop myself from giving a major side-eye and try my bestest (yes I made it a word) not to judge. I wanted to hear her story. She said the reason she decided to share her story is mainly because of people's judgment and how she's perceived as a bad woman and wife. Her argument is that her husband got severe brain damage which completely disabled him, physically and mentally. She felt like she couldn't care for him and at the same time take care of their 3 kids, so divorcing him and put him in an institution was her only choice. She wants us to understand the pain of having to make such a decision and how much she loves him still and always will. Oh, and she asked him if he was mad at her and he said no, he had no resentment towards her. At this point I was side-eying the hell out of her. Uhmmm, ma'am what the hell did you expect him to say????

And then she got the nerve the show their wedding pictures and how happy they were, talking about she never expected that life would turn out the way it did. It's not my place to judge but I reserve the right to side-eye her and make the stank booty face, but isn't that a breach of contract??? You stood in front of God, family, and friends and PROMISED to stay by his side for better and for worse, IN SICKNESS AND IN HEALTH, till death do you part. No??? So correct me if I'm wrong, but there were no clauses in the CONTRACT that bypassed the till death do you part part, were there?? Sooooo.....?? In other words you lied your azz off on church. Now that things got to the 'for worse' and 'in sickness' part, you bailed. You put him in an institution to be taken care of by strangers. I guess that's the part I have a problem with. This is Norway, one of the wealthiest countries in the world.....it aint the U.S. Her choices would've made more sense if she was living in the U.S. where it's all about the money, but Norway??

She can slice and dice it front to back, I think she's wrong. I guess it's easy to pass judgement cuz you can't possibly know what she's going through, but..... lets say she was a single mother with 3 kids and one of the kids got in a serious accident and was severely injured like the husband. Would she put the kid in an institution because she doesn't have the capacity to take of the disabled kid and the other kids because it would drain her??  


~I'm the Boss Lady~