Showing posts with label Gambia. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Gambia. Show all posts

Friday, February 25, 2011

Not Gambian Enough?

What's the definition of a pure Gambian?
Yow toubab nga = You are a toubab. I've heard this my entire life. What is toubab? Glad you asked. Lets look at the definitions of this word that I have a love/hate relationship with.

In the Gambia, West Africa, locals have a nickname for foreigners; they call them "Tubabs," a term derived from "two bob," the standard fee British colonialists used to pay Gambians for odd jobs.

From Wikipedia:
"Toubab" is a Central and West African name for a person of European descent ("whites"). Used most frequently in the GambiaSenegal, and Mali, the term does not have derogatory connotations by itself, though it is also frequently associated with "wealthy traveller" (if one can afford to travel, then he/she must be rich). The word can also be applied to any perceived traveller - even those of black African descent with an identifiably different phenotype such as (whiter) Cape Verdeans and (blacker)Nigerians, up to foreign-raised locals (thus with a different accent) or a visiting expatriate.

I feel all kinds of ways about both definitions. When I'm in the Gambia, they call me toubab. I can to a certain degree understand that....kinda. I mean, here we come with our kronas (currency of Norway) and just balling out of control. Or at least that's how it appears for the common Gambian (I aint gonna lie, too many some Gambians really ball out of control when visiting the motherland from abroad. More on that fuckery coming soon). So if by toubab they mean "wealthy traveller", I can sort of understand. 100NOK = about 400GMD (Gambian Dalasi). When the average paycheck in Norway lies around 28.000NOK, you can do the math. I get the money part.

What I don't get is Gambians IN Norway calling me toubab. Is it because I was raised here? Or is it because we live in a big-a** house instead of an apartment, like many Gambians here? Or because we speak 50/50 Norwegian and Wolof at home? Or because BossPapa watches skiing on tv? Or because I couldn't care less about gold and clothing material? What the f**k is it? Inquiring minds want to know. It's kinda like in America when Black folks who speak proper English, or grew up in the surburbs, or just generally act non-hood, there're "acting white". See, there's this great divide between Gambians who came here as an adult and those who grew up here. We Most of us just have different outlooks on life. We're....different. But does that make me less Gambian? My Gambian ex used to say that I wasn't Gambian enough, but he didn't have answers to how I was less Gambian.


Growing up, it bothered me a whole lot when I was called toubab. It was hard growing up in a predominantly white country. It was hard enough being the only black kid whereever I went. No matter how much I tried to fit in, I was always the odd one. It's a little like bi-racial kids, you're not really accepted in either groups. I was too black to be considered Norwegian (obviously) and my own people didn't find me Gambian enough. Now I.DON'T.GIVE.A.FLYIN.F**K! I refuse to let anyone define me. I'm not Norwegian-Gambian or any other hyphenated Norwegian. Yes,my citizenship is Norwegian, however my ethnic ties are with Gambia. I call myself a Gambian, because with Gambians I share a common language, common heritage, and common roots. I know who I am. Do you who you are?

~I'm the Boss Lady~

Friday, February 18, 2011

Happy 46th Independence Anniversary!!!

It's been 46 years since The Gambia got independent from the United Kingdom and joined the Commonwealth. I'm not even gonna say anything about the fact that our so-called president completely disregards our independence day. Today I'll pay tridbute to the Smiling Coast of Africa. I love-love being a Gambian and I'm proud of my roots. It doesn't matter that I've spent the majority of my life in cold-*ss Norway (a post on this ridiculously cold climate coming soon). Gambia, a.k.a Jollof is the smallest country on mainland Africa, but what we lack in size we make up for in soooo many other ways.

Gambians take chillaxing to whole 'nother level. Don't believe me? Get some Gambian friends if you aint got any, or just hang around Gambians. You know that GMT (Greenwich Mean Time) is jokingly referred to as Gambian Maybe Time. Time is a very relative concept for Gambians. I swear, we aint NEVER on time for anything! EVER! True story: I once went to wedding party that was supposed to start 10-ish pm, I got there around 11:30 pm. Do you know when the bride and groom entered the hall? I'm not making this up y'all! - at 03:17!! Yes, that's a.m. By that time my dad, a.k.a BossPapa, had already dozed off with a snack plate in his hand. LOL! We left the party around 05:00 and the party wasn't even close to over.


Speaking of parties, we'll find ANY excuse to throw one. And when we do, we do it real big. I think it's some kind of size complex we suffer from. Since the country is so small, we have to do everything big to compensate. And we're so damn LOUD!! Maaaaan, and my BossMama is the loudest of them all. I'm pretty sure a concorde engine aint got sh!t on her. And you aint lived if you've never eaten Benachin, a.k.a Jollof Rice. We love food. We live for food. We have GREAT food. You wanna get a taste of food heaven, come to our house. BossMama's cooking game is on point! 
I love the warmth and hospitality of our people. I love how everything we do is so grand. The colors in our outfits and the richness of our cultur. All this is to say that I'm proud to be a Gambian. Happy Independence, fellow Gambians! May the Almighty keep guiding and protecting us.



"For The Gambia, our homeland, 

We strive and work and pray,
That all may live in unity,
Freedom and peace each day.
Let justice guide our actions
Towards the common good,
And join our diverse peoples
To prove man's brotherhood. 
We pledge our firm allegiance,
Our promise we renew;
Keep us, great God of nations,
To The Gambia ever true."


~I'm the Boss Lady~