Check Your Breasts!!!!

It's October again....and it's time to save the boobs :) Breast cancer awareness is does not end after this month. Ladies, check your breasteses regularly. S/N breast cancer is NOT limited to women, men can get it too. Early detection is key, so make sure to get your screening. Most importantly, know your body and check the breasteses!!

Prayers, love and blessings to those who lost the fight, those still fighting and those who won. 

PLEASE SUPPORT THE CAUSE!! PLEASE SUPPORT THE CAUSE!!

~I'm the Boss Lady~

A Smiling Face Is A Beautiful Face

Laughter is the one language we all understand

It's Friday and I'm just happy for no particular reason. I'm grateful to be here and woke up with a big ol' smile on my face. We get so wrapped up in the daily grind that we forget to appreciate the little things and we go around mean mugging for no damn reason. Laughter is the best medicine for all things. Whenever I need my spirits lifted, I watch this little fella. CUTEST. BABY. EVER!

I love love love kids and their innocence, when they smile and laugh, it's straight from the heart and pure. No motives, no agenda....just sheer joy. So smile and laugh, it cleanses the soul. Happy Friday!

~I'm the Boss Lady~

For Better Or For Worse, In Sickness And In Health?

I'm not a Christian, so when I get married I won't stand in a church reciting the traditional wedding vows. That doesn't mean that I don't believe in what the vows stand for: COMMITMENT. Regardless of which religious beliefs you subscribe to, marriage is a commitment. I've written before that people get married for a number of different reasons, but lets just say for the sake of argument that people marry for love. The story Disney has used to brainwash little girls for ages boy meets girl, they fall in love and get married story.  And they stay true to their wedding vows, for better or for worse, in sickness and in health, till death do them part. Beautiful.

Almost like a contract, right? And by signing the marriage certificate, you've closed the deal. The contract is legally, morally and ethically binding. That's what I've always believed anyway, but I guess some see it differently. I was watching TV last night about a woman whose husband got paralyzed due to a serious car accident 12 years into their marriage. He was just 36 years. He suffered severe brain damage and was hospitalized for quite some time to recover. Fast forward 7 years and the couple are now divorced. The wife, well ex-wife, is living in their house with their three kids and the husband is in an institution.

See, at that point I had to stop myself from giving a major side-eye and try my bestest (yes I made it a word) not to judge. I wanted to hear her story. She said the reason she decided to share her story is mainly because of people's judgment and how she's perceived as a bad woman and wife. Her argument is that her husband got severe brain damage which completely disabled him, physically and mentally. She felt like she couldn't care for him and at the same time take care of their 3 kids, so divorcing him and put him in an institution was her only choice. She wants us to understand the pain of having to make such a decision and how much she loves him still and always will. Oh, and she asked him if he was mad at her and he said no, he had no resentment towards her. At this point I was side-eying the hell out of her. Uhmmm, ma'am what the hell did you expect him to say????

And then she got the nerve the show their wedding pictures and how happy they were, talking about she never expected that life would turn out the way it did. It's not my place to judge but I reserve the right to side-eye her and make the stank booty face, but isn't that a breach of contract??? You stood in front of God, family, and friends and PROMISED to stay by his side for better and for worse, IN SICKNESS AND IN HEALTH, till death do you part. No??? So correct me if I'm wrong, but there were no clauses in the CONTRACT that bypassed the till death do you part part, were there?? Sooooo.....?? In other words you lied your azz off on church. Now that things got to the 'for worse' and 'in sickness' part, you bailed. You put him in an institution to be taken care of by strangers. I guess that's the part I have a problem with. This is Norway, one of the wealthiest countries in the world.....it aint the U.S. Her choices would've made more sense if she was living in the U.S. where it's all about the money, but Norway??

She can slice and dice it front to back, I think she's wrong. I guess it's easy to pass judgement cuz you can't possibly know what she's going through, but..... lets say she was a single mother with 3 kids and one of the kids got in a serious accident and was severely injured like the husband. Would she put the kid in an institution because she doesn't have the capacity to take of the disabled kid and the other kids because it would drain her??  


~I'm the Boss Lady~

Another Brotha Gone: R.I.P Troy Davis

"....one nation indivisible with liberty and justice for all." This is the biggest lie fed to children in the f*cked up states of America. There sure as hell was no justice for Troy Davis.

I don't support the death penalty, even though there are crimes so heinous that it's beyond comprehension and where a person is guilty beyond reasonable doubt. However, the system is too flawed. Too many people, especially black and brown people are on death row because the system failed. 

The state of Georgia executed Davis last night. His last words before he was injected were: "The incident that night was not my fault, I did not have a gun…I did not personally kill your son, father and brother. I am innocent." And his last words to those who killed him: "May God have mercy on your souls, may God bless your souls."

The Macphail family says justice had finally been served. Yeah, may God have mercy on their "christian" souls too.

~I'm the Boss Lady~

Afrika Stand Up!!!

The 2011 Miss Universe pageant took place in Sao Paulo, Brazil on Monday, and 25 year old Leila Lopes from Angola was crowned Miss Universe!!! Whoop-whooooop! The stunning beauty is the second Black African woman to have won the title.

Apparently, her response to the interview question sealed the deal for her. She was asked which physical trait she would change if she could. She responded:

"Thank God I’m very satisfied with the way God created me and I wouldn’t change a thing, I consider myself a woman endowed with inner beauty. I have acquired many wonderful principles from my family and I intend to follow these for the rest of my life."

YES YES YES!!! End of story, huh? Nope! You know there's always some salty azz loser who's gonna say some shyt. According to International Business Times, Miss France was surprised by Lopes' win. Her style wasn't all that coz she wore jeans most of the time and hardly any makeup at all. WHAT??? Oh, and she was reserved and kept to herself. But the best part??? LOL she said the fact that the pageant was held in Brazil plays a role in Lopes' win as Angola is also a former Portuguese colony. Wait what???!! She said that in all seriousness.

Miss France ima need you to shut the fvck up and have several seats. Sore azz loser!!! That bullshyt is crazy and you've proven yourself a bigot. Go kill yourself!!

~I'm the Boss Lady~   

Yes, I'm Judging You For Smoking While Pregnant!!!!

Ya know what, I think there should a license to procreate. No, really! I came over an article where this lady is saying that she can't quit smoking even though she's pregnant and is well aware of the risks. Oh, and she feels that people are judging her and looking down on her. She just can't put them away.....really??? Major side-eye >>>>

Come on son, it aint that serious! If you want to put 4000 chemicals in your body that's all fine and dandy, but the minute you decide to carry a baby you have to stop! Yes, I'm judging your azz. You can't quit for nine lousy months? I've seen pregnant women with cigarettes and I always make the stank booty face and get all judgmental and shyt. I don't give a damn shyt what your excuses are, coz there aint shyt you can tell me that would justify you exposing your innocent baby to nicotine and carbon monoxide and more than 60 other cancer-causing compounds. Are you serious??? That's some super selfish mess, and you've already proven that you can't be a good mother. You can kick rocks!  

~I'm the Boss Lady~

The Day That Changed Norway

It's August 22., a month since that tragic day when a crazy muthafucka bombed the Norwegian government quarter and shot innocent kids at Utøya. I was on the interstate somewhere in Mississippi on my way to ATL when I got a text from a friend asking me if I heard the news about the bombing in Oslo. I was like WTF?!!? Bombing in Oslo? HELL NAW! I quickly got online through the phone and the headlines were just unreal. "Norway under attack". I think my heart stopped for a minute. The first thing that came to mind was that I have to call my brother who works in Oslo. I talked to him and he was on his way home, thankfully he hadn't been downtown that day. I quickly went on Facebook to check that friends and loved ones were ok. Everyone had updated their statuses to let other people know they were fine.

I started writing this blog post 2 days after the attack, but my mind went blank every time I started writing. I couldn't get down one single word, although I had a million swirling in my head. I guess I was trying to comprehend this whole tragedy. The fact that it happened here in Norway, one of the most peaceful places in the world, is unbelievable. I used to live 10 minutes from the government quarters.....just thinking about it makes my stomach turn. I have so many thoughts about this, but that's for another post.

My heart and prayers go out to everyone that has lost someone, to the survivors, and directly anyone affected. I was at the church downtown to show my respect for the victims. Seeing all those roses and letters and people made me tear up for real. And I thank God every day that I didn't lose a loved one. May their souls rest in peace.

~I'm the Boss Lady~